Rowing with Crew

I am a J.Crew fan. I love J. Crew.

Last night I went to their site like if I was checking my facebook. It’s a habit. It’s a daily routine for me.

On their home page they introduced me to the CFDA/Vogue Fashion Fund and two designers who were the recipients of this award. After looking at Prabal Gurung collection and watching the Billy Reid videos, I was impressed. A part of me wanted to buy something of Gurung and another part of me wanted to visit Reid’s store in Alabama.

As I got ready for bed, I ruminated about the fashion scene and silently wished I saw more African-American artist and designers.

With that said, I give kudos to Harlem Fashion Row, an organization in Harlem whose main objective is to ‘create diversity in fashion’.  After browsing through their site and voting for a designer whose clothing line I would love to see in stores (Joseph Bethune), I realize that there was really no need to wish to see more African-American artist and designers as there is a need to want African-Americans to be given the opportunities that are often given to their counterparts.

There are African-American artist out there, we just don’t see them.

As the founder and CEO of Harlem Fashion Row, Brandice N. Henderson, mentioned in the video posted on their site, “80% of Successful American designers come out of the CFDA/Vogue Fashion fund and in the last six years there has not been one men’s wear or women’s wear designer of African descent.”

She continued to say that “African-Americans and Latinos spend 22 billion dollars a year on apparel but this group of [designers that] represents ‘us’ is less than one percent of designers that are available in our major department stores.”

This makes me as an American, not as an African-American, but as an American think about my country and exactly where I should channel my money. Are African-Americans really not being given the chance? Are they really being kept out of the industry?

Am I rowing with the wrong crew?

Do I know You?

This week, I bumped into two people who remembered my face. I, on the other hand, did not recognize them. One was a cousin of mine (which is embarrassing to say) and the other was a friend from middle school.

I was walking to work on Thursday when all of sudden I heard someone call my name in a question. When I turned around, my cousin was standing there smiling. I think he thought that I was going to remember his face or something but I just looked at him- blankly.

You don’t remember me? He asked walking towards me. I’m your cousin.

And then I said the most embarrassing thing.

Oh, Yeah! I know!

And he stood there waiting for me to acknowledge him. So, I figure I better say a name because apparently he knew my name and a lot about me.

Timothy?

No, Ronald. Ronald Jr.

Oh! Hi! Oh my gosh! How are you?!

Now you remember me?

Well, a little. I mean, I know you but…like, I haven’t forgotten you…well, you know!

When we started talking is when I started to really remember him. He is probably ten years older than me and he looked different.  Not that different. I remember him being short when I was little girl and he is now my height. However, there was something about his voice that reminded me. Isn’t that weird?

The maternal side of my family is from Virginia so they have an accent. Ronald, even though he’s been back and forth between New York and Virginia, still has an accent.

There was something sad about seeing him too. Like I didn’t get a negative air but something made me sad running into him. I think it’s the time he spent away and the time missed.

I believe if you know a child (as Ronald knew me when I was a child) then maybe you have a duty to create some type of friendship with the child and be a very positive person to the child. Especially, if they are family members!

The other person I bumped into was Gabriel. I was walking to Macy’s and he was walking towards me. I literally bumped into him and then said excuse me.

Gabriel stepped aside, but made sure he held my eyes then he said

Do I know you?

And I am used to people, especially men, asking me “do I know you?” as a pick up line which I think is very silly. So, I was thinking, Oh gosh, here we go again! But Gabriel was serious and persistent.

Yes, I do know you. I know you!

And after he said that so many times I asked him from where. And he just kept saying I know you.

And finally he said from 174. I think we were in the same class.

And I said, oh! Okay.

But I still was not sure. Because I could not remember someone name Gabriel looking like him. The Gabriel I knew was chubby, wore glasses and seemed a little geekish. He would carry a big book bag all the time.

However, of all the things I remembered about Gabriel was he liked to make jokes. He used to sit in the front of the class and crack jokes all the time.

And I remember him taking up for me  in an argument the class was having over how I  dressed in the seventh grade.

The class wanted to know if I wore the same shirt yesterday. Gabriel told the class that I didn’t and some how another boy named Jose agreed with Gabriel. I remember thinking, Thank God for Gabriel and Jose.

I actually did wear the same shirt. I was doing an experiment with dressing and seeing how important it was to really change your outfit every day. My sisters’ thought I was crazy and my mom just told me to make sure I wore clean clothes.

When wearing the same outfit drew to much attention, I decided to pick two outfits for the week and wear one every other day. And surprisingly, the class never questioned if I wore the purple and green shirt I had on Wednesday on Monday. After that experiment I proved to myself that dressing really didn’t matter in school. Especially not in middle school. And when I convinced myself that it didn’t matter, nothing anyone said about my clothes made me want to change my outfits.

Okay, that was a tangent!

Anyways, seeing Gabriel did not leave me with the same feeling that I felt when I saw Ronald but instead it left me with curiosity. Which I think happens every time  you bump into a childhood friend. We spoke a little about our school and I asked him what he was up to these days. Apparently, we were tagged in the same picture on facebook which allowed me to easily befriend him. Seeing him made me think a lot about middle school. I am glad those days are over.

Ronald Jr.