This picture was originally taken by the children’s grandma, Lisa Diggs. I am working on a project for her and she showed me some of her family pictures. Out of all of them, this was my favorite. I changed it a little to my liking. It reminds me of the late photographer, Helen Levitt, who photographed Children.
In celebration of the Thanksgiving holiday I thought I’ll blog about Dr. Naison and his lovely wife who have been married for over 30 years. If family is not one of the main things to be thankful for, what is? By looking at this photo one can tell that they are still happy with one another. It was satisfying to be around them too. They are very down to earth and warm people.
Dr. Naison is the head of the African-American Studies Department at Fordham University and while I was in school, I took his class titled, From Rock and Roll to Hip-Hop.
I learned so much in that class. It was the only class I was able to talk in dept about the music I listen to…and I was a music major. In addition to it being the only class that allowed me to express my love of Gospel music, it was not (and still isn’t) considered a music class at Fordham.
Every time I think about how Fordham doesn’t include music classes that talk about music besides Classical and Jazz, it really annoys me. I tried talking to the Music department but nothing was changed. How Fordham University is going to be in the heart of the Bronx (where Hip-Hop music was born) and doesn’t include Hip-Hop music in its course selection?!
I am not the type to pry into people private lives. I sometimes mind my business. Okay, I am nosey but not a busy body. I just like to learn why people would do certain things or act in different ways so I would know. Is that prying? Anyways, I guess I am trying to say I don’t really care that couples today- wait yes I do care cause if I didn’t care I would not be blogging about it.
It just bothers me that so many people get married then divorce and remarry and then it seems like the world is better for them. What are we saying to our youth? That its okay to get married fast? Or that marriage is not a serious thing anymore? And then the same married folks want to say its not right for people of the same-sex… not that I am for same-sex marriages either. I don’t think any of them are being just! How you going to dishonor God and yourself by getting a divorce? And worse- by marrying someone of the same sex. Thats not right. America is in a bad state. Really is. In terms of marriage.
It’s hard to know who is married to whom in the celebrity world. They are always breaking up. It probably is hard to stay together with the media (not me) all up in their business but they should work something out. It’s really sad.
A lot of the movies that a lot of my friends list as their favorite on their Facebook prove the point that marriage is not as vital to the main steam anymore and its tricking down making it the norm when it is just wrong. I am thinking about movies like Brown Sugar and Why did I get Married?
I just received my Ebony issue in the mail. The February issue with Kimora and Djimon on the cover. As soon as I saw them on the cover together my heart dropped. I like them as people. But not their message about marriage.
And Ebony- of all magazines? What are you trying to say to the community about marriages? First you preach that we should stay together then you get celebrities who are doing the exact opposite? In the article, Djimon said that Russell Simmons, Kimora Simmons ex, “came with absolutely open arms to me”. That seems weird to me. Like if men are no longer jealous of their girl friends or worse- wives- being with other guys. I guess not?
At least in Tyler Perry’s Why did I get Married the Mike character did show a little jealously when his wife came with her new “half”. And I am not saying Shelia should have stayed with Mike but it seems being single is never an option anymore.
But listen to this one- back to Djimon Hounson and Kimora- He’s saying this about Russell: ‘ ” I thought maybe he would get all freaked out, because if I had to put myself in that setting…” the actor’s voice trails off.’ ” So, I am guessing that if it was the other way around, Djimon would show his envious side. That is not the only article I read in the Ebony magazine where the men seem to get a long with their wife second husbands. The other one was about…well, I’ll stop here. I’m sure you get the point now. Marriage is holy and that’s the way it should stay. Till death.